The skin on my upper chest/lower throat is frequently pink.
(Not too bad here– I had a hard time actually finding a photo that showed what I mean!)
I flush when I’m warm. I flush when I’m embarrassed. My skin is tender and reacts to all manner of fabrics/metals. If I happen to rub or scratch that area, it will be an angry red for quite some time.
This is just how it is.
I don’t have any skin conditions or problems, mind you– just fair, sensitive, easy-to-flush skin.
It’s never bothered me.
There is a woman– a lovely woman, I might add– who works at our church.
And EVERY TIME she sees me, she admonishes me for getting sunburnt.
“Oh, I’m not burned,” I’ll smile.
She’ll raise a brow.
I’ll stammer to explain but, as you might suspect, that just makes me flush more.
I’d never worried about this, my friends. I really don’t consider it a problem.
But, every time I leave one of these conversations, I’m embarrassed, self-conscious, and wondering if everyone thinks I’ve fried my skin or have something wrong with me.
But what do I do?
Try to get over myself and ignore her? (I’ve tried– that’s hard for me.)
Say something? And, if so…. what?
I’ve pondered approaching her privately and telling her that this is just how I’m designed and that her words hurt and embarrass me. That I wish she’d stop calling attention to it because it makes me feel self- conscious.
But is that overreacting?
I just don’t know.
I feel like I’m whining over something incredibly insignificant here. I know people have MUCH bigger problems than this.
But it’s bothered me for three years now. That seems long enough.
So… what should I do?