I want to speak to the teen and preteen girls out there.
I want to be brutally honest with those sweet young ladies who are honestly asking themselves, “Should I do it? Is this the right time for me to have sex? How do you know, for sure, that it’s right?”
This is not going to be a “true love waits” post, though I have no issues with that philosophy.
This is not going to be a “wait for your future husband or you’ve totally screwed up” post, either, because I loathe that attitude.
This is also not going to be a “everything is washed clean because Jesus paid for our sins” type of post, because, honestly, that doesn’t answer the question.
This is going to be me, JessieLeigh, talking straight and saying exactly what I said when a fifteen year old girl asked a 20-something me that exact question.
So here goes.
I know a fair number of women who first had sex at a young age and they do not regret it. They can look back fondly at that first encounter and they do not feel that it was a mistake.
I also know a lot of women who first had sex at a young age and now DO regret it. They wish they had waited longer and made a better choice, because they realize that their first experience was, perhaps, not as wonderful as it could/should have been.
What I do NOT know are any women who regret having waited as long as they did.
Let me say that again.
I’ve never personally met a woman who has said, “I sure wish I’d slept with someone sooner. That would have been a way better choice.”
What does that all mean?
Well, it means that, while you might feel just fine about having your first sexual experience at a young age, there’s still a decent chance you might not.
Is it worth it?
Only you can decide that.
I’ve told you what I know to be true. I’m not sugar-coating this or claiming that you’re doomed to be miserable should you decide to “do it.”
But make sure you’re using your brain when making the choice, and not just responding to your body or following “what your heart feels.”
Because, in the end… if you think, even for a second, you’d be better off waiting?