“It’s hard for me to say,” he murmured quietly from the backseat.”
“Just say it honestly. Don’t worry about it.”
“I just don’t think I’m very good at it. And I’m not sure that it’s something I want to spend the time on to get better.”
And with that, I knew exactly what we had to do. It was time to find a new activity or, at least, take a break. He had devoted several seasons to this one and, well, it wasn’t fun anymore. While “we don’t raise no quitters ’round these parts,” we also know when it’s time to let a child move on and nurture other interests.
As I drove on and pondered his simple words, “I’m not sure it’s something I want to spend the time on to get better,” I was struck by their truth.
Because that’s the REAL decision, right? It’s not so much realizing you’re no good at something and throwing in the towel. It’s acknowledging that, in order to be good at this thing, it’s going to take some serious work and effort– and is it worth it?
I’m realizing that, for me, home decorating would be an equivalent.
I appreciate it.
I kind of like doing it, just because I get to hang out with some cool friends in the process.
But it’s not natural and, thus, it’s more work than fun.
In the end, the rewards aren’t worth it for me.
I gave up on having “seasonal mantels” or what-not in favor of other things. I claim it’s just because “I’m not good at that.”
But that’s not really the whole truth.
I could learn. I could be good at it. Or, you know, at least competent.
But I knew when to quit.
I’m so glad he does, too.