Here are three things I wish more people knew. Please know that I absolutely realize that sometimes these stereotypes DO apply to the mothers of premature babies… but it is so essential that people know that oftentimes, they do not. I have met (in person or online) so many amazing, devoted, strong, committed, healthy moms of preemie babies.
And so, in no particular order, here are three things that preemie moms are NOT (necessarily…)-
- Young, uneducated, and without proper prenatal care– I can tell you that I found out about my pregnancy early on, was careful with my diet and exercise, attended every prenatal appointment… I’m also a college graduate who had previously carried a baby full-term. Didn’t stop me from going into labor at 23 weeks 4 days…
- Addicted to drugs +/or alcohol– Not only is it true that most preemie moms are NOT addicts, but some addicts manage to have full-term babies. There is no reason to assume that a premature baby is the by-product of substance abuse.
- Medically “flawed” or biologically destined to have trouble carrying children full-term. Sometimes it’s just a mystery. Sometimes they can’t even begin to guess why it happened. Sometimes it just… happens. Other times, the doctors figure out and are able to prevent future premature deliveries armed with that knowlege.
I think we all need to realize that there are so many “assumptions” that we all make about so many situations. I am as guilty of this as the next person. But the area in which I feel the most comfortable attempting to dispel the myths is regarding prematurity. I would love to hear from the rest of you-
What are three things you wish people knew/ three myths you’d like to dispel?
originally published 8/14/2008
(*I received a comment from a wonderful brand new micropreemie mama this past weekend and, I won’t lie to you, it brought back so many memories– not only of when I had my baby girl, but also of why I started this site in the first place. So, because of that, I thought I’d bring back a few “preemie posts” from the early days this week.)