- “Don’t worry about it– you’re in survival mode right now!”
- “I can’t even think about that… I’m in survival mode!”
- “That’s going to have to wait… it’s survival mode time right now…”
- “Oh my goodness, who can deal with all that? Lower your standards and just live in survival mode.”
We’ve all heard it, said it, or lived it. At some point in your life, you either have been, currently are, or will one day find yourself in a season of Survival Mode.
There’s nothing wrong with that. As long we always remember…
Survival Mode should not put you in debt.
Are you in a season where you can’t whip up a wholesome, home-cooked meal? Then this is the time to serve up Wheat Thins, cheese, and applesauce for lunch and call it good. It is not the time to rely on pricey convenience foods or take-out and overspend to the point that it damages you financially.
Survival Mode still means you need to take of yourself.
Letting go of a consistent work-out plan? No problem; there are times a shower doesn’t make it in your day, let alone a thirty minute run. But this is not a time to rely on no sleep, no exercise, and a sporadic junk food diet to survive. Eat wholesome, if simple, food. Rest when you can. Stand up and stretch from time to time.
Survival Mode does not mean giving up.
If you just “give up”, you’ll make your life even more complicated and stressful. A good “survival plan” is just that- a plan. You need a seriously pared down menu plan, cleaning schedule, and overall “to-do” list at this point… but you should still try to organize your true necessary tasks. What little time you do have won’t be spent spinning your wheels if you do a little planning and get realistic about what you hope to accomplish.
Survival Mode should make life easier.
If you’re constantly sobbing about your lack of focus… or your husband is desperate to feel needed or helpful… or your children are fearful of interrupting you because they feel like burdens… well, then, this version of Survival Mode isn’t working. Re-prioritize. Cut out more things that don’t matter– dusting, mowing your lawn, cooking from scratch, ironing the clothes, volunteering at the church, etc . Seriously, cut out ANYTHING before you cut out the people who matter.
Survival Mode should not be how you deal with “being busy.”
There’s a mommy I know from my son’s class… I’ve known her coming up on two years now. She’s declared herself in “survival mode” for that entire time. Her reason? To quote: “I have three kids, what do you want?” The short answer? A better reason than that. I’m not trying to be nasty but, really… if you’re busy, then you need to deal with that. But that’s not a reason to fall into “survival mode.” Because, finally…
Survival Mode should not be a new way of life.
Don’t get too comfortable with this new, wacky way of living. Survival Mode is not supposed to be your new normal. Rather, Survival Mode should serve as a bridge between two far more stable times. You’re not trying to set up camp on the bridge. You’re just setting up a safe way to navigate the wild rapids so you can make it back to solid ground without falling in and drowning.
See you on the other side!