I have a confession to make.  When I gave birth for the first time, there was a little part of me that was super relieved to hear them say, “It’s a boy!”  It’s not that I didn’t LIKE girls… of course I did!  And, honestly, I was arguably a real girly-girl: long blonde hair, perennially painted nails, high heels, and lots of sparkly jewelry.  But I also realized that mother-daughter relationships can be, well, complicated.  For whatever reason, I figured a mother-son relationship would be easier.  If nothing else, I felt less pressure since I wouldn’t be his prime same-gender role model…


And I had a boy first.   It was wonderful.  He was a total joy.  When I found out I was pregnant again so soon after his birth, I kind of thought it would be fun to have two little boys so close in age.


I had a girl.  And then another one three years later.


I am so glad He knows just what He’s doing.


I just can’t imagine life without my girls.


How do you feel about the gender breakdown of your children? Were your plans the same as His? (I love hearing these stories!!!)

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9 comments to Daughters

  • Carol

    Well, my first pregnancy, 19 years ago when I was only 19 myself, I wanted to have a girl, and got my wish. Many years passed. I married a man that had two children, both girls and close to my daughter’s age. Neither of us really wanted more kids so we thought we were done. Then I found out in January of 2012 that I was pregnant. And while it wasn’t what I’d originally wanted or planned for, I did begin to hope for a boy. We knew this was our last chance for a son (unless we wanted to adopt) because I decided I was having my tubes tired. So at my ultrasound to find the sex of our little bean, when the technician said it was a girl, my response was ” Damn it!” Lol! But our girl has been a real blessing to us both. My husband was fine from the moment I found out I was pregnant (I didn’t handle it so well) and was fine with having yet another girl. He does get to be a “guy” with our two nephews. But he loves his girls. :)

  • Kathy

    We had two boys that were 20 months apart. We were done “having kids”. Before we could do something to make that permanent decision, we found out we were pregnant. The very funny thing was that I had just told a group of friends that “the only way we are having another baby was if God put it on my doorstep.” Well He did. We were so excited when we found out it was a girl. Now I have this beautiful little girl to do “girl things” with all the time.

  • earleyml

    My first pregnancy we choose not to find out what we were having, so everyone kept telling me boy. My husband and I were convienced we were having a boy and were totally shocked with D Day came and Alex(andra) was born. I am the middle child of two boys and so not girly that I looked at this little one and thought how in the world am I going to do girly things with her. My husband is also the middle child but of two girls, so he was looking forward to finally having a boy to do guy things with. Baby #2 we decided to find out and honestly, I was hoping for another girl to save $$ on clothes, shoes, toys, etc. Plus I was hoping our children would have something neither of us had, a sibling of the same gender. When we found out another girl, I was excited but my husband was a little disappointed that he wasn’t going to have a boy (two then done for us). However, he would NEVER trade his girls for anything. Alex goes golfing with him and LOVES sports, so he found that he can do “guy” stuff with her. Katelyn for some reason has really brought out my girly side when she was born. I’ve learned how to french braid and paint nails often. :) God knew what we needed more than we did.

  • Sandra

    Funny thing to see your post – it could not have came at a better time. I am currently expecting and my husband and I are already blessed with a 3 year old boy. When we found out we were expecting we both said healthy first but we really want another boy! I know GOD knows better than us and I trust that. We will find out in another 7 weeks but it’s funny to think we could have a girl!

  • Sonja

    When my husband & I got married, I wanted 2 girls & then 2 boys, that was how I grew up & always thought it seemed just right. We have 3 boys spaced 2 years apart, and one girl 4 years younger. So we got our four…just not evenly divided :)

  • No it is not at all how I had planned/expected. I thought for sure by now I would have children (any gender breakdown) and a husband. However, that wasn’t clearly in his plan so I’m patiently waiting to see how the plan unfolds. Patience is NOT one of the virtues I was given so being patient is hard. :)

  • Susie

    Aww, Kelly, praying for you! I’m not patient either. My grandma always said “Romance is just around the corner.” HER mom was 39 when she married and had four kids, and in the 1800s that was rare!!

  • I thought I would have all girls, honestly! I just have a sister and my mom is one of 5 girls. I couldn’t imagine being mother to a son!

    And then I had little David, and I can’t imagine not having him, not discovering what little boys are like.

    When I was pregnant with Joshua, I was SURE he was a girl until they told me they saw the … thing … at his u/s. I was a little disappointed that Libbie might not have a sister. But the more I thought about it, the more glad I was. We only have room for one Prima Donna in this household. ;)

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