I Don’t Feel Sorry for Adam Lanza


I’m going to say something so NOT politically correct here…


I don’t feel one bit sorry for the man who shot all those people in Sandy Hook.




And, these days, that makes me a bad person. The RIGHT thing– the proper thing– to say would be “we need better care for the mentally ill in this country.”


I agree with that. There is so much stigma associated with any kind of mental illness, not to mention inadequate care provided by many insurers, that many truly wonderful, but hurting, people are not getting the help they need. And that simply isn’t right. So, if this tragedy raises awareness about that and helps that issue then, well, that’s good.


But this man? I have no pity for him. Not an ounce. If I feel anything, it’s honestly frustration in ┬áthat I believe his death was too merciful. I don’t know what exactly I would have wanted for him, but there’s something sickening about his quick, self-inflicted gun-shot after what he did to so many people.


I don’t pity him.


I don’t believe we can fix people who are that twisted. Honestly, when someone gets to the point that they CAN LOOK FIRST GRADERS IN THE EYE AND FILL THEM WITH BULLETS… well, that’s just beyond any possible explanation. Last I checked, there is no “cure” for sociopath.


We can talk about gun control, if you’d like. (Though if you suggest arming teachers, I should probably just warn you upfront that you and I will never agree…) We can talk about better care for the mentally ill.


But, though it will surely get me branded as insensitive, ignorant, and small-minded–


I will never feel sorry for Adam Lanza.

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11 comments to I Don’t Feel Sorry for Adam Lanza

  • I’m always infuriated when these shooters kill a lot of people … and then kill themselves. If you’re going to kill yourself, couldn’t you just spare the rest of us the torture of dealing with the aftermath? All those poor families? It makes me LIVID. If you’re going to kill a bunch of people, you should HAVE to deal with the consequences.

    Yeah, I don’t feel bad for him either. Sorry.

  • Courtney

    I agree and actually thought to myself it was too bad he killed himself because he got off too easy. Ugly, I know, but you’re right, anybody that can look into the eyes of a five year old child and massacre them that way is pure evil.

    Having said that, for those murderers and pedophiles and anyone else in our prison system, they are fully within God’s love and can know His amazing grace by repenting and accepting Jesus Christ as their Savior, so I don’t believe they are beyond hope or “fixing.”

    Thank you for being bold enough to post things like this.

  • Susan

    As a parent, there is NO forgiveness in my heart for Adam Lanza. I don’t care that he was mentally ill. He deserved to die slowly and painfully. He did get off too easily.

  • Jennie

    I agree. No pity. Mental Illness does not give you the right to hurt anyone else. It does not give you a free ride to behave however you’d like.

    He made his choices whether he made them with a “right mind” or not. It took too much forethought for it to be anything but premeditated.

    He was sick. His actions were evil.

    Yet, I can’t say like Susan there will not be forgiveness in my heart. I know that is hard to read and hard for me to say. I want to live the way Jesus taught and he taught to forgive. What that will look like in this case, I have no idea.

  • Oh, do people feel sorry for him? I missed that. I definitely think this sort of tragic event could be prevented by fixing the broken kids before they become violent adults though. The resources are pretty slim and the help the parents of these kids need is simply not there. But this Lanza guy obviously premeditated a crime and knew it was wrong. I have no sympathy for him. If I wasn’t happen that my friend was in a position to move on to the healing process after burying her daughter yesterday I would be angry that he got off so easy by killing himself. I’d like him to at least get beat up in jail for awhile, but then my friend would have to go through a criminal trial that would prolong her agony. Really if you want to off yourself I don’t know why it can’t be a solitary act.
    I don’t know about arming teachers, but I really would like to see a real policeman on campus.

  • Alex

    how he had the mindset to destroy his harddrive BEFORE the shooting.

  • Amanda

    It still disgusts me that this man committed such an act and took so many lives. However I cannot say that I don’t feel sorry, because my sister was mentally ill and my mother chose to avoid it until it was too late. She never got the opportunity to get the help that she needed. I know that his family struggled and is still struggling with that, and I am sorry for them and for all those he affected.
    I am praying for you though, that you find it in your heart to heal and let go of this anger. Holding it within you will only damage you. It’s fine to be upset at what he did, but hating him is only planting evil in your heart and letting it grow.

    • Thank you so much sharing your story and perspective here, Amanda. Never did I say I don’t feel sorry for the family– in fact, I have been simply devastated for his brother, whose name got slapped across the media as the perpetrator when, as far as we can see, he did nothing wrong. It is not that I don’t have pity in my heart– it is simply not for a “man” who could slaughter innocents. And I do not hate him. (I had to reread to be certain I didn’t write that– I don’t see that I did.) Hate would be a waste of time and energy and would yield nothing positive. But, no… no matter what, I do not feel sorry for him.

  • Laraba

    First of all, I sincerely doubt anything we could do to that man compares to what is happening to him in Hell, where I am SURE he is. No man who marches through a school killing little kids and then shoots himself is going to Heaven. I feel 100% confident of that.

    The other thing is this…I was just reading a short story about John Newton, who wrote Amazing Grace. He was a drunken, evil man for much of his life, and a slave trader. He purchased Africans, including CHILDREN, loaded them onto stinking ships, manacled them to dark holds, and felt no compunction when a third or more died on the passage to the New World. After he became a Christian, he was STILL a slave trader. It was some substantial time later when God opened his eyes to the incredible evil of the slave trade, and he worked for the rest of his life to abolish it.

    It isn’t the same in that Adam Lanza’s actions are highly reprehensible culturally, whereas John Newton was just “going with the flow” but STILL. It is shocking that a Christian could not see how evil the slave trade was. And he didn’t for a while. Evil can exist in anyone, even Christians. Certainly in a mentally ill non Cristian.

    Some other examples where there WAS change…there were Nazi guards who were part of the Holocaust who repented after the war. The Apostle Paul was basically a religious terrorist, voting to put to death the early Christians until God reached in and grabbed his heart.

    I believe ANYONE can change through the power of God. But Lanza won’t ever have the chance.

    I think there is Scriptural argument for different levels of Hell, and the place for Lanza (and Hitler, and Stalin) is probably more terrible than for most others who are there.

    That assumes you believe in Hell, of course. I do.

    Do I feel sorry for him? I do, honestly. I feel MORE sorry for the kids and for the parents and the families and his family. But to get to that point where he chose to kill others and then himself. That is grim. That is sad. That is tragic.

    I do understand your perspective and of course am not saying you are wrong. I just look at it differently.

    Also, I don’t live nearby and have deliberately not followed the story closely because it hurts too much to think of those sweet innocents. So I’m not as emotionally involved as most people in our country.

    I pray for those left behind, that God will give peace through mourning and that there will be more help for the mentally ill.

  • I don’t think I can feel sorry for him. Even the mentally ill, usually, even in the worst breaks can still know right and wrong.
    The person I feel sorry for is for his family. I know what it is like to have a mentally ill family member that you try, work, and push for getting them help. You can even call the police and let them know you think he is going to do something to someone, and they let you know, as gently as they can of course, that until he actually does something, there is nothing they can do. If you manage to get a doctor to admit there is a problem, even then, you are generally looking at a 72 hour hold, and back out on the streets. I know the feeling of despair, wondering when you read a news report, if that will be your family the next time. Forever, this family is branded. They are the family of the killer that killed all the little ones. If he was crazy, maybe you are a little crazy too? The blame that people heap upon the family members is incredible, so while everyone makes mistakes….make sure to place blame where it is due.

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