Boys Dressing Up Like Girls

First off, I’d just like to issue a disclaimer that this is NOT a deep, philosophical post that will analyze the impact of gender identification on children. I am also not any kind of therapist whatsoever. I took Psych 101 and Child & Adolescent Psychology in college– neither of these make me any sort of expert. What I am is an observent, straight-talking woman who has watched more than a few boys grow up and grow up well.


So here you go.


Most boys, at some point or other, will gravitate toward something girly. Might be a boa. Might be a wedding veil. Could be something flashy and pink.


If you observe a preschool dress-up station, you will see boy after boy after boy reaching for the shiny baubles, sparkling heels, and froufy hats.


Some will be tall boys, some will be short. Some will be athletic, some will be artsy. Some will be outgoing, some will be shy.


All will be normal.


Here is a simple truth: girls’ dress-up clothes? Tend to be fun. The textures, the finishes, and the colors are all more enticing than the fireman’s hat or cowboy holster. It just it what it is.


Little boys who crave lace and feathers and glitter? Are not destined to be wimpy or wussy or gay.


The absolute truth of the matter is this…


The only little boys I’ve ever seen harmed by girls’ dress-up clothes? Were the ones whose parents (often fathers) made a big honkin’ deal out of it. (This is because shame will hurt a child far more than a pair of pumps.)


So chill. Laugh. Take a picture if you’d like.


But don’t sweat it. Little boys in boas? Are nothing to fear.

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5 comments to Boys Dressing Up Like Girls

  • Both of my boys fight over anything pink…the pink bowl, the pink pen, etc, etc. I’m so grateful that though my husband is not a huge fan of this pink stage, he doesn’t make a big deal about it or embarrass my boys.

  • My thought has always been “Don’t we WANT our boys to love beautiful things? Because women are beautiful.” ;-)

    I don’t think any child should be shamed for pretending or enjoying objects that we deem not gender appropriate. If a girl can go out and play with a dump truck in the mud, a boy can surely dress like a princess or play with a baby doll.

  • Susan

    not sure…I wouldn’t make fun of my son if he dressed up but I sure wouldn’t encourage it. My son, when he was younger, always would gravitate towards soccer balls and light sabres. He was never a fan of dress up of any kind. At 11, he’s a multi-sport athlete who hates anything to do with acting, singing or theatre. I’m not sure if that’s because of something we did as parents or that’s just the way he is.

  • Celine

    It is so important for parents to realize this. So much of little boys wanting to dress up in heels or dresses or jewelry is them wanting to be just like their mom. Kids really look up to their parents, especially mom and want to do the things they do.

  • destiney

    I have many a pictures of the boys in my family one being my own son in tun of girly stuff. He used to love these pink and blue cat ears from someones Halloween costume that got into the dress up when he was around 3 he wore them everywhere. i just hate it when people put a stigma on certain things. like lately i had a real bad run in with my father in law when he told my son he looked like a f**** because he got his ears pierced and then wore pink earnings. which are kind of in now walk into any mall and a good portion of boys clothes are neon colors like pink and purple. Needless to say my husband said he has never seen his father back pedal as fast as he did when i got into his face. which is kinda funny since im like 5ft nothing n he is a good 6 ft. I think that this kind of behavior can lead to bad thinking later in life. that it’s not ok to like something out of the boy/girl zone. and in my opinion it’s just stupid people are who they are and no amount of your disproveal can change that.

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